Personally I had a windows laptop with an i7 and GTX 1650Ti 2GB, which was ok at gaming, and a trashcan Mac Pro with Xeon 6 core and dual D300s, which turned out to suck at most games because the dual GPU drivers don't play nice anymore. I haven't received and tested mine yet, but as long as you game with headphones the fan noise isn't really a problem. Just make sure to use MacsFanControl or TGPro to manage thermals, and for best game performance try using bootcampdrivers. Think of it as a macbook that can also play games pretty well. It seems to mostly be 1080p60, maybe 1440p60 in some games. Just keep in mind that whatever option you pick, the 16' is NOT a dedicated gaming laptop so don't expect 4k60 ultra settings by any means. There is a 5600M option, though even with current pricing they're ~3000 USD, which is too expensive to justify IMO. I'd try to get one with 32GB of RAM since it's non-upgradeable and it seems to benefit some games pretty well (ex Escape From Tarkov), the 8GB of VRAM on the 5500M is just to be safe since more and more games need 4GB or more of VRAM to play smoothly. Especially now that the prices are falling, a good example can be had for ~1500 USD on eBay, maybe less. IMO it's the obvious choice since it's portable, supports Bootcamp, has a great screen and speakers, decent battery life, and importantly does not have the godawful butterfly keyboard.

From my research it seems even the base model with iM 4GB would be pretty decent at games. I had a similar situation to you, my solution was buying a 2019 16' Macbook Pro with a 2.3Ghz i9, 5500M 8GB, 32GB RAM, and 2TB SSD.

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